2319: Effective Communication
Hey Friends,
Take a Deep Breath.
In various conversations this week, the central theme has been "the delivery of a message" or how we express ourselves to others. Some people may maintain stone-cold poker faces when faced with comments, but beneath that façade lies a person with their own emotions, thoughts, and self-preservation.
We've all experienced interactions that were meant to be positive and constructive but somehow didn't turn out that way. I won't delve into specific situations, but I'll describe the common patterns I've noticed that lead to negative outcomes.
- Expectations
Ironically, the best advice I ever received on expectations was to "Expect Nothing." Back when I was joining a fraternity, I found it hard to grasp this idea. However, now that those days are behind me, I understand that when we expect nothing, we reduce the pressure on ourselves and the desired outcome. Everything that does happen becomes a delightful surprise because we didn't anticipate it.
- The Delivery
This is something I acknowledge I need to work on continually. It all boils down to the art of communication. The majority of communication is non-verbal, so when we do speak, it's vital to be aware of how we're conveying our message to someone. Let me provide a simple example: the difference between saying "no" and "NO." Those two words have entirely different meanings just by altering the way they're presented. This illustrates that intentions are crucial in every aspect of life.
Delivery and Expectation are the two recurring patterns I observe, which often lead to negative interactions with others. This topic has been on my mind throughout the week, and I felt the need to share it. As the week comes to a close, I'd like to ask: What do you think are the common patterns behind negative interactions?
Peace,
Zechariah Davis
Song of the week:
- Sacrifices - Dreamville
Quote of the week:
- "Relax. Your rumination, analysis, worry, and need to control the future are robbing you of the current moment. Yes, there is a time for preparation, but continually thinking of the future guarantees you'll never enjoy in the present."
-James Clear
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